Monday, April 29, 2024

ANS -- Delight in Each Other: Democracy as a Covenantal Relationship

I wanted to share with you all this service by Doug Muder.  It's over a year old, but I think it's really meaningful.  
--Kim


SATURDAY, FEBRUARY 25, 2023

Delight in Each Other: Democracy as a Covenantal Relationship


 

 a service presented at First Parish Unitarian Universalist Church
in Bedford, Massachusetts
February 19, 2023

Opening Words 

The opening words are from the sermon John Winthrop preached on board the Arbella, to the colonists on their way to found the new town of Boston. 

"We must delight in each other; make others' conditions our own; rejoice together, mourn together, labor and suffer together, always having before our eyes our commission and community in the work, as members of the same body."

Time for All Ages: Stone Soup 

One day a traveler came to a village, pulling a cart behind him. In the cart was an enormous cooking pot, 
and inside the pot was … nothing. 

As he approached the village green, villagers came up to him, looked in the cart, looked in the pot, 
and said, "You don't seem to have any food with you, so I think you may have come to the wrong place. This is a poor village in the best of times, and these are not the best of times. Many are hungry, and no one has extra food to offer you. You should just keep going, and maybe you'll have better luck down the road." 

But the traveler said, "You mistake my purpose. I didn't come to ask you for food. I am going to cook a wonderful soup in this pot, and offer a bowl to anybody who wants one." 

Well, there were indeed many hungry people in the village, so that offer drew their attention. "But what are you going to put in your soup?" 

To which the traveler replied: "Watch and see." 

So the villagers watched him as he filled the pot with water from the village well, and gathered wood and started a fire. And as the water began to heat, he took something out of his cloak and unwrapped it: a stone. 

"This is a magic stone," he said. "Exactly how I obtained it is a tale that perhaps I might tell some other time. But for now just let me tell you how the enchantment works: Whenever I am hungry (and I have to admit I am getting hungry now) all I have to do is boil this stone, and it produces stone soup, which is the most filling and nutritious soup I have ever eaten. The stone will fill any vessel with soup, and that's why I carry a pot so much bigger than I need for myself, so that I have plenty to share with others." 

The villagers weren't sure what to make of this story, but they watched as the traveler stirred and sniffed and reminisced about all the wonderful times he had eaten stone soup. And as they listened to him, their mouths watered and their stomachs growled. 

"All you need is that stone?" someone asked. 

"Well," admitted the traveler, "by itself stone soup is filling and nutritious, as I said. But if you add just a little cabbage, it becomes tasty as well." 

To everyone's surprise, one of the village's poorest women said: "I have a few cabbages hidden away." 

"These will do marvelously," said the traveler as he cut them up and added them to the pot. Now the air was full of the smell of cooking cabbage, which drew all the rest of the villagers out to the green. 

"Stone soup with cabbage is indeed quite tasty," the traveler said. "But if it also has a few carrots, it becomes downright delicious." 

"I have a few carrots," another villager offered. 

Once the carrots were added, the aroma became irresistible, and the villagers began to volunteer. 

"Do you think some potatoes would help?" 

"I have just a bit of salted pork." 

"Corn," offered another. "Salt and pepper." 

The traveler praised each offering as exactly what the soup needed, until one by one, every household in the village had added something to the pot. With each ingredient, his claims for the soup grew, until he declared that even the King himself would not enjoy such a fine soup that day. 

When the traveler pronounced the soup done, he ladled out a bowl to each and every villager. And as he scraped out the last of the soup for himself, there at the bottom of the pot was the stone. He very carefully picked it up, cleaned it off, wrapped it in a cloth, and put it back in his cloak for the next time he might need stone soup. 

And as the villagers ate, they all agreed that this was indeed the most wonderful soup they had ever tasted, and every word the traveler had said about it was perfectly true. 

Readings 

I'm Doug Muder. As you might guess from my name, I'm of German ancestry. Large numbers of Germans were already coming to the American colonies in the 1700s, and my direct ancestors began arriving in the 1840s. And so, whenever people start debating who is or isn't a "real" American, my status never comes into question. 

If you are similarly privileged, I recommend this exercise: Page back to the era when people like you first started coming here, and see what was being said about them then. When I did that, I found this letter Benjamin Franklin wrote to Peter Collinson in 1753 about the threat that German immigration posed to the Pennsylvania colony. 

"Advertisements intended to be general are now printed in Dutch and English; the Signs in our Streets have inscriptions in both languages, and in some places only German: They begin of late to make all their Bonds and other legal Writings 
in their own Language, which (though I think it ought not to be) are allowed good in our Courts, where the German Business so encreases that there is continual need of Interpreters; and I suppose in a few years they will be also necessary in the Assembly, to tell one half of our Legislators what the other half say; In short unless the stream of their importation could be turned from this to other colonies, as you very judiciously propose, they will soon so out number us, that all the advantages we have will not in My Opinion be able to preserve our language, and even our Government will become precarious." 

In time, though, Germans and a variety of other immigrants became acceptable. As far back as de Tocqueville, it has been observed that Americans are united more by a set of beliefs than by ethnicity or sect. The canon that defines that so-called American creed has never been codified, but I've collected a few texts that I think you will all recognize. 

From the Declaration of Independence: "We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain inalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness. That to secure these rights, Governments are instituted among Men, deriving their just powers from the consent of the governed." 

The Preamble of the Constitution says a little more about why governments are instituted: "We the People of the United States, in order to form a more perfect union, establish justice, insure domestic tranquility, provide for the common defense, promote the general welfare, and secure the blessings of liberty to ourselves and our posterity, do ordain and establish this Constitution for the United States of America." 

From the Gettysburg Address: "We here highly resolve that … this nation, under God, shall have a new birth of freedom, and that government of the people, by the people, for the people, shall not perish from the earth." 

The final reading is by Barack Obama's Ambassador to the United Nations, Samantha Power, who, when she doesn't have a job that takes her elsewhere lives in Concord. She may look and sound like a lifelong American, but she is an immigrant. She came from Ireland at the age of 8, and wasn't naturalized until adulthood. 

In her autobiography The Education of an Idealist she describes the ceremony like this: "During our collective Oath of Allegiance, we pledged, 'I will support and defend the Constitution and the laws of the United States of America against all enemies, foreign and domestic.' 

"Looking around the courtroom, seeing emotion ripple across the faces of those whose hands were raised, I was struck by what America meant as a refuge, and as an idea. All of us gathered that morning had reached the modern Promised Land. We weren't giving up who we were or where we came from; we were making it American. 

"I hugged an elderly woman from Central America on my left, and a tall man from Russia to my right. We were all Americans now." 

Sermon 

As many of you probably know, I write a weekly political blog where the topic of democracy often comes up. 

One downside of looking at the news week-by-week, as I do, or day-by-day, as many cable news shows do, is that it's easy to focus on the latest threats to democracy, whatever they happen to be: Say, election denial, or a violent attempt to overturn an election (like the one in Brazil last month or here two years ago), or a voter suppression law, or gerrymandering, or an assault on the free press. A short-term view tends to make us reactive: Democracy is under attack. How can we defend? 

But this morning I want to take a longer view and think about the health of democracy. Not who is attacking it and how, but what do we need to shore up and rebuild? Not what is tearing democracy down, but what makes democracy work in the first place? 

Health is often more mysterious than disease, and I believe that's the case here. Some very important things about democracy aren't well understood or appreciated, even by people who value it highly, like Unitarian Universalists. One big misunderstanding, I'm sorry to say, is embedded in our Fifth Principle, the one that commits us to affirm and support "the use of the democratic process within our congregations and in society at large." 

It's the only mention of democracy in our principles, and from it you might get the idea that the essence of democracy is process: holding elections, having a Congress, giving courts the power to uphold human rights.
 

That kind of thinking has led well-intentioned people astray time and time again, for a very simple reason: If you have military control over someone else's land, as we did in Iraq and Afghanistan, and as the European powers did in their former colonies, then it's not hard to impose a process.You can assemble a constitutional convention, guarantee that the first set of votes are counted accurately, and leave behind an elected government operating under a constitution that promises human rights and the rule of law. 

Presto! You've created a democracy. 

But again and again, those externally imposed democracies have failed, because the processes of democracy are empty 
unless a Spirit of Democracy animates them. Anyone with enough power can set up a democratic process. But only the people themselves can infuse that process with a democratic spirit. 

That sounds a little mystical, so I should probably give a concrete example of a living democratic process I have experienced myself, and which you may have experienced as well. Several years ago I served on a jury in a criminal case. In the beginning I wasn't thrilled to be there, and I doubt that my colleagues were either. Who is, really? I doubt many people get the summons and say, "Oh great! I get to do jury duty!" 

But it didn't take long for the ritual of the court to work its magic on us. Surprisingly quickly, it became real to us 
that in this particular time and place, we were the community. It was up to us to weigh the law's just demands against the defendant's rights. 

None of us had a personal stake in the outcome. We didn't know the defendant or anyone else connected with the alleged crime. If we had not caught the spirit, our deliberations might have become a rote performance. We might have listened to the witnesses half-heartedly and then just voted our preconceived opinions about crime or the kind of people who live in that neighborhood. We might have gone along with the majority just to get it over with. 

But we did catch the spirit, and we did our job well. We listened intently, both to the evidence and to each other. We thought hard about the case, and as we discussed it, several of us changed our minds. And even though we voted to convict, if I am ever on trial, I hope I get a jury like us. 

But whether we understand the importance of spirit or not, the people threatening democracy do. It's striking how many of their attacks leave the processes standing, but hollow out their meaning. Russia, for example, still preserves the form of campaigns and elections, but any opposition leader who gets too popular, if he's not just killed, may have to choose between exile and prison. Hungary still has the appearance of a free press, but nearly all the major news outlets have been bought by allies of the government. In a gerrymandered state like Wisconsin or North Carolina, voters can cast ballots however they like, but whatever they choose, the party that drew the maps has locked itself into power. 

The worldview that underlies such empty democratic rituals is one of deep cynicism. Justice can't be blind. Government is always corrupt. Science is fake. News is just propaganda. There is no shame in lying, because everyone lies. 

And none of that is seen as the debasement of higher values; it's just how life is. There are no real democracies, no common truths on which we might base our discussions, no shared principles that might guide our deliberations. Only children believe in such things. Only power is real. 

Having invoked that cynicism, I'll try to dispel it with a second positive example, this time from one more document out of the American canon, the Mayflower Compact, which bound together the pilgrims on their way to found the Massachusetts Bay Colony. 

The Compact is pretty thin on process. The pilgrims promise "to enact, constitute, and frame, such just and equal laws, ordinances, acts, constitutions, and offices, from time to time, as shall be thought most meet and convenient". In other words, they pledge to come up with some kind of process eventually. 

But they do something else in this document, something no external power can make you do. The pilgrims "covenant and combine ourselves together into a civil body politic". They promise that those processes they intend to establish someday will be "just and equal", and work towards "the general good of the colony". 

What they're are saying, in other words, is that we have decided to be a People together. Rather than submit to some external authority, we commit to govern ourselves. And rather than use that government to exploit each other, we pledge to treat each other as equals and seek the common good. 

That's what's missing when the processes of democracy become empty: a covenantal relationship among people. Democracy is alive not when we are committed to freedom of the press or one man one vote or trial by jury. All those abstractions only come alive when we are committed to each other, and to all the people who share our covenant. Everything else flows from that. "Delight in each other," John Winthrop told his flock. That's where it starts. When we value each other, when we feel responsible for each other, and accountable to each other, then the Spirit of Democracy will animate our processes. 

Today I'm mainly talking about American democracy and the American covenant. But an idea I want you to hold in the back of your minds is that this applies to First Parish too. For more than two years, Covid has really been doing a number on our ability to delight in each other. Our democratic processes have continued to function, but we've also seen how brittle they can become when they can't be anchored in a larger consensus formed during coffee hours and potlucks and concerts, or while working together on an auction or a plant fair or a haunted house. 

All that has been restarting lately, and just in time. In a little over two months, the search committee will be introducing us to a candidate to be our senior minister. Then we'll have decisions to make, and maybe a new era to kick off. It will be an exciting time, and it will also be challenging. 

But if we remember our covenant, stay true to each other, and take advantage of whatever opportunities we can find to delight in each other, then I'm pretty sure we'll be OK. 

So back to America. If democracy depends on its covenant, then we need to do some hard thinking about the American covenant and how to keep it strong. Fundamentally, a covenant is two things: a group of people, and the commitment they make to each other. And so the health of our democracy depends on finding the right answers to two foundational questions: Who is an American? And what is this "America" that we have come together to form? 

The Samantha Power reading described our ritual of naturalization, through which we induct new people into our covenant. And as she makes clear, that ritual is not empty for the new Americans themselves. It's also deeply meaningful for the people who preside; I could have offered any number of readings testifying to that. 

But one of the primary avenues of attack on our democracy is to hollow that ritual out. Too often today, we hear people talk about "real Americans", a group of people different from (and presumably much smaller than) 
American citizens as the law defines them. The definition of a "real American" changes from one speaker to the next. Maybe you have to be white. Maybe you have to be Christian. Maybe you have to be native-born, or speak English with a certain accent. You may become less "real" if you turn out to be gay or trans or socialist. 

Once you accept this notion that some American citizens are not "real", you are on your way to overthrowing democracy. Because how can an election be legitimate unless the legal voters make the same choice the "real" voters would make? And if they don't, doesn't it make sense to suppress the votes of the "unreal" Americans, or gerrymander them into districts that minimize their power, or find some loophole in the process that allows the "real" candidate to take office in spite of getting fewer legal votes? Ultimately, wouldn't even violence be justified? 

So to defend democracy, we need to stand up for the idea that naturalization is real, the birthright citizenship promised by the 14th Amendment is real, and nothing about your sexual preference or gender identity or political philosophy makes you any less real of an American. We need to hang onto that vision of Samantha Power hugging the Hispanic woman to her left and the Russian man to her right, because "We were all Americans now." 

To a large extent, that vision is true to our history. At the time of the Founders, the challenge was to get people to come here, not to keep them out. And so we barely had immigration laws at all until after the Civil War. 

Some people like to claim that their ancestors came here "the right way". But there was no wrong way for my ancestors to come in the 1840s. They just showed up and survived a few years, and then they were Americans. 

What united Americans then, and has continued to unite us through the centuries, was not ethnicity or language or religion, but that vision expressed in Jefferson's Declaration: Everyone comes to this world with equal worth and dignity. Everyone has the right to live, to steer their own course through life, and to try to thrive as best they can. Government power derives not from God or the ancestors or any other external source, but from the consent of the governed. 

As President Washington told the Hebrew Congregation of Newport: "All possess alike liberty of conscience and immunities of citizenship. It is now no more that toleration is spoken of, as if it was by the indulgence of one class of people, that another enjoyed the exercise of their inherent natural rights." 

If you're here, and you believe those things, and if you're willing to cast your lot with the rest of us, to defend our lives and our rights the way we defend yours, then you're as American as anybody else. 

Last week, Lisa Maria mentioned some of the metaphors Americans have used to describe this joinable covenant: a melting pot, or (as she prefers) a patchwork quilt, where immigrants keep their prior identities, but (in Samantha Power's words) "make them American". In the same vein, I've also heard America described as a tossed salad. Personally, though, I see America as a stone soup. 

Think about the mistake the villagers are making at the beginning of that story, the one the traveller tricks them out of. Each of them has a little food, but they all imagine that their own stash is the only one. And so they look at each other as mouths to feed, and not as people who might have something to offer. 

Again and again, immigrants have come to our shores looking like they have nothing. But again and again, that has turned out not to be true. They brought their talents. They brought their culture. They brought their energy. And they made it American. We haven't always treated our immigrants well. But America at its best has always eventually realized that these aren't just mouths to feed. These are people with something they can add to our soup. 

That unofficial American creed also goes a long way to answer the second fundamental question, to define the "America" our covenant is trying to form: a place of liberty and equality, where people have the opportunity to apply their talents and become whatever they have it in themselves to be. 

And to that I would add one more idea, which I would trace back to George Washington's Farewell Address: America is a kind and generous member of the community of nations — willing to help, standing with others who defend the same freedoms we want for ourselves, but not seeking empire or dominance. 

But as I paint that patriotic picture, I can already hear the objections rising in your minds: How can we reconcile such a positive vision with the actual history of the United States? With the Native American genocide? With slavery and Jim Crow? With the oppression of women, of gays and lesbians, of a long list of groups who in one way or another have been labeled abnormal or unworthy? How do we reconcile it with the way we treat those who are coming to our border right now, looking for help because they have nowhere else to go? 

Those questions point to the second argument we have to win, if we are going to defend democracy: The America that defines our covenant — we can't look for it in the past. It is a goal for our future. There is no moment we can look back to and say, "That was America. Let us make America great again."

The America that defines our covenant is an ideal and always has been. We have never lived up to it and we're not living up to it now. 

Who would know better than a black man in the midst of the Great Depression just how far the America of history has fallen short of the American ideal? 

In 1935, Langston Hughes saw the vision of America as clearly as anyone: 

O, let my land be a land where Liberty

Is crowned with no false patriotic wreath,

But opportunity is real, and life is free,

Equality is in the air we breathe.

But he also lived the reality. "America," he wrote, "never was America to me." 

His poem laments not just his own oppression, but all the people America has failed. And yet he does not give in to cynicism, or reject the ideal of America in scorn or disgust. For Hughes, our repeated failures only reinforce his commitment that someday we must succeed: "




O, let America be America again—
The land that never has been yet—
And yet must be—the land where every [one] is free. …
America has never been America to me,
And yet I swear this oath: "America will be!"

We fulfill the vision of America today in many ways that we fell short two hundred years ago, fifty years ago, or even ten years ago. Our highest hope is that future generations will be America in ways that we never have been, that they will look back on us not as the good old days, but as an era only slightly less benighted than the ones before it. 

Summing up, to keep our democracy healthy, we need to renew our commitment both to each other and to the ideal America we want to create. But how? Every day, whether you get your news from the Left or the Right, you are reminded how divided we are, how polarized. So how can we renew our covenant, even with people on the other side of the partisan gap? "Delight in each other," John Winthrop said. That seems so distant now. 

In his recent book The Persuaders, Anand Giridharadas describes the work of a Russian internet troll farm that created countless fake American social media identities in order to influence American politics and culture. Their goal was not to convince us to support Russia, but rather to turn us against one another. 

"The troll farm … had encouraged the view, already on the rise, and not without roots in reality, that the basic activity of democratic life, the changing of minds, had become futile work. … [It] wanted Americans to regard each other as immovable, brainwashed, of bad faith, not worth energy, disloyal, repulsive." 

That belief is easy to find today on both sides of our political divide: Our opponents are not just wrong, they are irredeemable. But I want to close by pointing out that this hardened attitude violates our Universalist tradition, which refuses to write people off just because they don't see what we see. 

Leaders may act in bad faith, but many follow them in good faith, believing what they have been told. The solutions they ask for may be misguided, but the problems they see in their lives may still be real, and deserve our compassion. 

I know how hard it can be to look past the name-calling, trolling, and bullying to try to understand the genuine disappointments and hurts fueling that behavior. But no matter how frustrating and annoying such people may be, they are Americans, and we are in covenant with them. 

If we're going to renew our covenant and preserve our democracy, we need to hold onto our Universalist faith that no one is beyond redemption. And that — no matter how stubborn they are or how many times they have been hoodwinked — no one is completely incapable of seeing Truth. 

Closing Words 

The closing words are by Langston Hughes 

O, let America be America again—
The land that never has been yet—
And yet must be


Thursday, April 25, 2024

Fwd: Green tidbit



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The global EV revolution appears to be gearing up for a new phase of growth.

 

— Fatih Birol, executive director of the International Energy Agency, suggesting there will be "surging demand" for electric vehicles over the next decade. A new report from the IEA projects EV sales will rise by a fifth to reach 17 million this year, powered by drivers in China.

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Joyce Cooper
CEO SunSmartPower
650-430-6243
SunSmartPower.com

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Teslas are less expensive to maintain than other car brands, including some with strong reputations for reliability, according to Consumer Reports.

As part of its 2023 Annual Auto Surveys, Consumer Reports asked owners how much they paid out of pocket for maintenance costs like oil changes over the previous 12 months. Researchers then compared cumulative costs by brand for years one through five and years rough 10 of ownership.

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U.K.-based Bedeo is launching a Land Rover Defender EV conversion based around in-wheel motors from Bedeo-owned Protean Electric.

The Defender is the first in a series of "Reborn Electric: Icons" conversions, according to a Bedeo press release. The program will expand the company beyond its current business of electric van conversions to the burgeoning cottage industry of electrified classic cars—and, perhaps, to more contracts to supply its in-wheel motor tech.

Rember I said convert "jeeps" to EV!


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Joyce Cooper
CEO SunSmartPower
650-430-6243
SunSmartPower.com

Wednesday, April 24, 2024

ANS -- People On Opposite Sides of the Political Spectrum Seem Crazy To Each Other

Here is a review of the moral positions of liberals and conservatives as described by George Lakoff.  Read it. 



--Kim



People On Opposite Sides of the Political Spectrum Seem Crazy To Each Other

Because they don't understand or accept the fundamental outlook of the other

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In 2020, I published a story just ahead of the election about what I'd learned from cognitive scientist George Lakoff's book called Moral Politics. It helped me to understand why some of the things that core conservatives do and believe look somewhere between cruel and insane to me, but make perfect sense to them. After having a conversation about this today with a friend, I decided it was time, on the eve of another election cycle, to talk about these ideas again. All quotes, unless otherwise noted, are from Lakoff's book.

Although there are more than two schools of political thought in the United States and voters are not a monolith, it's useful for this discussion to divide them into core liberal beliefs and core conservative ones. When we look at the social dynamics that make for "moral behavior" in each, we can quickly see that these are not just two different systems of values, but two entirely different ways of looking at the world.

Both liberal and conservative values and belief systems, what Lakoff refers to as moral systems, can best be understood as two different types of family structures; Strict Father Morality and Nurturant Parent Morality, and these same ways of looking at the world apply in both the family and the larger society. In a sense, these two systems view the proper functioning of the world in diametrically opposing ways, which is why it's so difficult to understand the perspective of someone with a different political position.

"Moral worldviews, like most deep ways of understanding the world, are typically unconscious", Lakoff says. He adds that "The more that a neural "idea-circuit" is used, the stronger it gets — and may eventually become permanent, effectively "hard-wired." Hence, most of what we will be discussing in this book occurs at the neural level and is likely to be unconscious."

Cognitive science is the study of unconscious thought, and Lakoff tells us that only about 2% of what we consider to be thought is actually consciously done. Things like our childhood inform the rest and how we were raised, the cultural messaging we receive, and the reinforcement we get for those messages. These often come to us via metaphors and other non-literal methods and reside in the subconscious.

It is not only possible but likely that people may apply these two different models in different areas of their lives, even in different areas of their political lives. These are not meant to be monoliths, but merely representations of two different core outlooks on the world.

In other words, these models are broad overviews and are not to be taken as definitive examples of what every person who identifies as a liberal or a conservative is like. These models do, however, go a long way to explaining the confusion and exasperation that many people feel when talking to someone with a different system of values.

The Strict Father model is what we might refer to as traditional and patriarchal. In this model, the man is the head of the household and his wife and children defer to his authority, which he uses to guide them, encourage them, and keep them safe. He typically sets and enforces rules for the house. Self-discipline, self-reliance, and respect for legitimate authority are the crucial things that children must learn. In this way, the strict father shows his love, by putting those in his charge on the correct path and punishing them if they leave it. This is how he prepares his children for a happy and successful life.

On a societal scale, this translates to a belief in the rightness of a dominance-based hierarchy, law and order, self-sufficiency, and respect for authority. "Rewards and punishments are moral acts; giving someone an appropriate reward or punishment balances the moral books. The obligation to obey is a metaphorical debt. You owe obedience to someone who has authority over you. If you obey, you are paying the debt; if you don't obey, you are refusing to pay the debt — an immoral act, equivalent by moral arithmetic to stealing, a crime."

If you look at the metaphor of the Nation as a Family, Strict Father parents see illegal immigrants as not being a part of their family, since they are not citizens. Being asked to care for illegal immigrants is tantamount to being asked to feed, house, and provide healthcare for other kids in the neighborhood who have shown up uninvited and expect to be treated like their own children.

Here are some terms that often appear in conservative discourse: character, virtue, discipline, tough it out, get tough, tough love, strong, self-reliance, individual responsibility, backbone, standards, authority, heritage, competition, earn, hard work, enterprise, property rights, reward, freedom, intrusion, interference, meddling, punishment, human nature, traditional, common sense, dependency, self-indulgent, elite, quotas, breakdown, corrupt, decay, rot, degenerate, deviant, lifestyle.

Conversely, liberals use terms like: social forces, social responsibility, free expression, human rights, equal rights, concern, care, help, health, safety, nutrition, basic human dignity, oppression, diversity, deprivation, alienation, big corporations, corporate welfare, ecology, ecosystem, biodiversity, and pollution.

The moral principles that have priority in each model appear in the other model, but with lesser priorities. Those lesser priorities drastically change the effect of those principles.

Empathy and nurturance are the primary focus in the Nurturant Parent model. The outlook is that children become responsible, self-disciplined, and self-reliant through being cared for, respected, and caring for others, both in their family and in their community. Nurturance requires support and protection and they require strength and courage on the part of parents. Children become obedient out of the love and respect they have for their parents and their community, not out of the fear of punishment.

Strict Father morality assigns highest priorities to such things as moral strength (the self-control and self-discipline to stand up to external and internal evils), respect for and obedience to authority, the setting and following of strict guidelines and behavioral norms, and so on. Moral self-interest says that if everyone is free to pursue their self-interest, the overall self-interests of all will be maximized. In conservatism, the pursuit of self-interest is seen as a way of using self-discipline to achieve self-reliance.

Nurturant Parent morality has a different set of priorities. Moral nurturance requires empathy for others and the helping of those who need help. To help others, one must take care of oneself and nurture social ties. And one must be happy and fulfilled in oneself, or one will have little empathy for others. The moral pursuit of self-interest only makes sense within these priorities.

The moral principles that have priority in each model appear in the other model, but with lesser priorities. Those lesser priorities drastically change the effect of those principles.

The Strict Father model believes that the world is difficult and people have to be self-disciplined to survive in a difficult world. Rewards and punishments by the parent are beneficial to the children because they help to teach the child to be able to survive on its own. In this way of thinking, punishment for disobedience is understood as a form of love.

"According to this model, if you are obedient, you will become self-disciplined, and only if you are self-disciplined can you succeed. Success is therefore a sign of having been obedient and having become self-disciplined. Success is a just reward for acting within this moral system. This makes success moral."

Ruthless behavior in the name of the good fight is thus seen as justified.

In this way of looking at the world, wealth is then conflated with morality, and poverty with immorality. Taxation of the rich is seen as punishing those who have done what is right and succeeded at it. Competition is seen as a necessary part of maintaining self-discipline. "Without competition, there is no source of reward for self-discipline, no motivation to become the right kind of person. If competition were removed, self-discipline would cease and people would cease to develop and use their talents. The individual's authority over himself would decay."

A strong Us/Them mentality comes out of this model of moral strength."Ruthless behavior in the name of the good fight is thus seen as justified. Anything that promotes moral weakness is immoral. If welfare is seen as taking away the incentive to work and thus promoting sloth, then according to the metaphor of Moral Strength, welfare is immoral. What about providing condoms to high school students and clean needles to intravenous drug users to lower teenage pregnancy and stop the spread of AIDS?"

"The metaphor of Moral Strength tells us that teenage sex and illegal drug use result from moral weakness — a lack of self-control — and therefore they are immoral. Providing condoms and clean needles accepts that immorality, and that, according to Moral Strength, is also a form of evil. A morally strong person should be able to "Just say no" to sex and drugs. Anyone who can't is morally weak, which is a form of immorality, and immoral people deserve punishment."

The legitimacy of the person in authority is an important aspect of Strict Father morality also. Advocates of Strict Father morality have a huge resentment toward any moral authority deemed to be illegitimately meddling in their lives. The Federal government is a common target. Interestingly, in the American Strict Father model, once a child becomes an adult, they are no longer subject to the authority of their father. Countries such as Italy, Spain, France, and China have no such expectation that maturity releases you from the familial hierarchy in their own Strict Father models.

The folk theory of the natural order is often used to determine authority in a might makes right context. Examples of the natural order are as follows:

  • God is naturally more powerful than people.
  • People are naturally more powerful than animals and plants and natural objects.
  • Adults are naturally more powerful than children.
  • Men are naturally more powerful than women

This legitimizes the patriarchal dominance hierarchy as being natural and therefore moral. It makes social movements like feminism appear unnatural and therefore counter to the moral order. It legitimatizes the view of nature as a resource for human use and, correspondingly, man as steward over nature. It also stimulates theories of so-called natural superiority as discussed in books like The Bell Curve, which purports connections between race and intelligence. Homosexuality also violates this natural order because men and women are not acting in the way that their gender is "supposed" to.

What Donald Trump means by Make America Great Again is a return to a time when this folk theory of natural order was more widely accepted and those who were lower down the hierarchy knew their place. Trump's supporters overlook his faults because they strongly resonate with this message, and as far as I can tell, it is just about the only thing that he stands for, but it is such a compelling message to many, that alone it is often enough for some voters.

This is not necessarily overt racism, misogyny, or hatred of anyone that is in play (although it could be) but may instead be a strong gut feeling that this type of social hierarchy is indeed natural without entirely understanding why one believes that. It's in the subconscious. It just feels right. It's why appealing to core conservatives about how acceptance of LGBTQ+ kids decreases their rate of suicide tends to fall on deaf ears. They often see feeling suicidal as the natural result of refusing to conform.

"The metaphor of Moral Essence is a significant part of our moral repertoire. It resides deep in our conceptual systems. It is used to define virtues and vices of all sorts. It plays a role in our political life, and it is used by liberals and conservatives alike. But it is given a high priority in Strict Father morality because of the importance of discipline to character development in the Strict Father model of the family."

The metaphor of Moral Essence has three important entailments:

  • If you know how a person has acted, you know what his character is.
  • If you know what a person's character is, you know how he will act.
  • A person's basic character is formed by adulthood (or perhaps somewhat earlier).

For conservatives, it gives rise to things like the "three strikes and you're out" rule for prison sentences, and the suggestion that teen mothers with illegitimate children should have their kids taken away for the moral good of the child. Many conservatives were outraged when author and activist Donna Hylton spoke at the Democratic National Convention (DNC) in 2020. Hylton spent 26 years in prison for participating in the brutal kidnapping and death of a Long Island real estate developer in 1985.

She has described her first 20 years as "adult hands harming me instead of protecting me." Hylton has also said that she thinks every day with regret about the man who was murdered and his family, even though evidence brought up during her trial indicated that she did not personally participate in either his torture or subsequent murder. In prison, Hylton earned a bachelor's degree in Behavioral Science and a master's degree in English from Mercy College.

She now works as an activist and community health advocate, but for many conservatives, Moral Essence says they know who she is. A youth spent being brutalized and a post-prison life devoted to being a contribution to her community doesn't count for much. What matters is her participation in a terrible crime when she was practically a teenager. Having her speak at the DNC simply proved to many Conservatives how morally bankrupt the Democrats are and how little they care about law and order.

The function of empathy and nurturance in the Strict Father model is to promote strength; providing nurturance is to be a reward for obedience and withholding it, a punishment for disobedience. Nurturance is not the focus, but rather, a means to that end. However, in the Nurturant Parent model, being cared for and cared about is seen as the way that children realize their potential and go on to contribute to their community.

Protection is a form of caring, and protection from external dangers takes up a significant part of the nurturant parent's attention. The world is filled with evils that can harm a child, and it is the nurturant parent's duty to ward them off. Crime and drugs are, of course, significant, but so are less obvious dangers: cigarettes, cars without seat belts, dangerous toys, inflammable clothing, pollution, asbestos, lead paint, pesticides in food, diseases, unscrupulous businessmen, and so on. Protection of innocent and helpless children from such evils is a major part of a nurturant parent's job.

Strength, respect, self-discipline, and self-reliance come through being cared for and caring for others. When children are respected, nurtured, and communicated with from birth, they gradually enter into a lifetime relationship of mutual respect, communication, and caring with their parents. Modern hunter-gatherer tribes confirm that this philosophy does tend to bear out. Anthropologist, Peter Gray has this to say about contemporary hunter-gatherer bands:

"It is difficult to prove with empirical evidence that the kindly, trustful parenting of hunter-gatherers promotes the development of people who treat one another kindly and who eschew aggression, but the theory makes intuitive sense. It makes sense that infants and children who are themselves trusted and treated well from the beginning would grow up to trust others and treat them well and would feel little or no need to dominate others in order to get their needs met." (1)

A child raised in a Nurturant Parent model understands the nature of interdependence. He understands that bonds of affection and earned mutual respect are stronger than bonds of dominance. This is also reflected in the type of discipline advocated for in each model. Popular conservative parenting books like those written by James Dobson and J. Richard Fugate advocate for spanking a child to reinforce parental authority.

"The major objective of chastisement [that is, physical punishment] is forcing the child's obedience to the will of his parents." (Fugate, 143)

This is seen to be in the child's best interests, even though all modern child psychology rejects this way of relating to children as harmful to their psyches and to the parent/child relationship. Nurturant Parenting believes that violence begets violence and that corporal punishment is a type of violence — one that teaches children to abuse others in order to impose authority and gain respect.

The Strict Father model of policing believes that it is only right to inflict pain in the process of bringing about order and that failure to submit to legitimate authority justifies drastic action. As we have seen in the deep divides around the issue of police brutality and unnecessary use of force, as many people buy into this model as those who find it abhorrent. Both see the other as reprehensible because they cannot conceive of the other side's moral system.

From a Nurturant Parent model standpoint, in the family, a child has a right to nurturance and a parent has a responsibility to provide it. A parent who does not adequately nurture a child is thus metaphorically robbing that child of something it has a right to. For a parent to fail to nurture a child is immoral. In a societal context, community members have a responsibility to see that people needing help in their community are helped. Selfishness is someone who puts their own self-interests ahead of those they have a duty to nurture and assist.

Paul Ryan saw taking free school lunches away from low-income children as a way to motivate and empower them to greater self-responsibility and ultimately greater success in life. Liberals saw this idea as the machinations of a heartless monster. But now that I know what I do about these two different ways of looking at the world, I don't think he actually was. I'm still in favor of giving free lunches to hungry kids, but although I don't agree with Ryan's reasoning, I do better understand it now.

Conservatism is not about naked self-interest, or blue-collar conservatives wouldn't repeatedly vote for things that don't benefit them financially. It's not about small government, because conservatives are more than happy to allocate extraordinary amounts of money to things like defense. "The cynical liberal response is that conservatives want to continue spending on (1) the means of social control such as the military, the police, the intelligence services, and prisons, and on (2) aspects of government that help make the rich richer, say, the funding of computer research, or nuclear power, or the Air Force's training of pilots which benefits the airlines, or the bailouts of large corporations."

Some of this has some truth to it, but it's also not the whole story and most conservatives believe they are supporting things that are in the best interests of our country, which is why they are so confounding to most liberals, who tend to think their ideas are heartless and overly authoritarian. Neither one understands the other because they come from two entirely different systems of values and beliefs that are often at odds with each other.

Not many people outside of the cognitive sciences are used to thinking about social and political issues in terms of the human mind, but Lakoff's meticulous research and exposition of his entire theory are more than I can reasonably fit into this story, so I'm going to end things here, with perhaps a follow-up somewhere down the line.

I have no affiliation with George Lakoff or this book and simply found it to be something that made sense to me in a way that nothing else ever has about our deep political divide. I hope it made sense to you too. Political debate is actually about the right form of morality, and that in turn comes down to the question of the right model of the family.

© Copyright Elle Beau 2020

(1) How Hunter-Gatherers Maintain Their Egalitarian Ways